Mediation is a process that allows divorcing couples the opportunity to meet in a neutral environment to discuss and resolve any divorce-related issues. A third-party mediator will help both parties come to a mutual understanding and agreement.
While mediation tends to be less stressful and complex than litigation, it’s still important to be prepared for your meeting.
Getting Ready for Divorce Mediation
Emotionally prepare to speak with your partner.
Even in civil mediations, it can be tempting to bring up past grievances or blame your spouse for the end of the marriage. It’s important to remember that a negative attitude will only make the process more difficult. Instead, we suggest expressing your needs and wishes in a calm and clear manner.
Understand how the process can affect children.
Divorce affects children as well. A court-approved parent education program can help you learn how to effectively communicate with your children and understand their feelings and concerns.
Gather important information and paperwork.
The more prepared you come to mediation, the smoother it will likely go. Typically, we suggest both parties come to the table with:
- Their most recent pay stubs.
- Past W2s and/or 1099s.
- A certified copy of their marriage certificate.
- A list of their assets and debts.
- The more detailed you can be, the better. For example, in addition to knowing which joint accounts you have, you should also know how much is in them. This is also true for retirement accounts, and investments.
- Previous court filings or important legal documents.
Come with a positive attitude.
Mediation isn’t about winning or losing — this is a chance for both parties to come together and discuss the best course of action moving forward. At the end of the day, this is one of the first steps towards a new and happy life.
Call Peak Mediation at (719) 259-5944 or contact us online to schedule a free consultation with a mediator in Colorado Springs.