The divorce process can be extremely stressful for you and your family. Often, the most daunting part of going through a family law issue is facing a contentious courtroom battle. By choosing mediation, you can avoid going to court and resolve your disputes quickly and amicably.
To get the most out of your mediation session, follow the tips below.
Tips to Prepare for Mediation:
1. Be ready to communicate your goals. While it may be tempting to enter mediation blaming the other party for their part in the divorce, that time has passed for that. Mediation is all about resolving disputes and finding solutions. Focusing on the breakdown of your marriage will only hold you back on the past. Instead, think about what your goals are for mediation and how you will reach them. This will help your mediator figure out the best resolution for your case.
2. Remember, time is money. Even though mediation is a lot cheaper than divorce, it still costs money. If you are arguing back and forth, discussing topics outside of your goals, you are not productive enough. Don’t use the mediation sessions as therapy time.
3. Gather the appropriate documents. To make your meeting go smoothly, it’s smart to bring the following paperwork:
Recent pay stubs
Past W2 and/or 1099’s
Certified copy of the marriage certificate
A list of your assets (checking, savings, retirement, investment) and a list of your debts
A copy of your prenuptial agreement, if one exists
Any court filings
4. Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Mediation indeed makes the divorce process more manageable, but any break up is difficult. The sessions can be emotionally draining, so we recommend taking the time to do something kind for yourself. It can be something small, like buying an ice cream cone or doing a 20-minute yoga session. Find something that puts you at ease and lifts your spirits.
Arriving at the mediation table already prepared can help reduce your stress and maximize your ability to resolve disputes. Share this article with your spouse so that you can effectively utilize mediation to get through your family law matter.
If you have any questions about the mediation process, call our Colorado Springs attorney-mediator at (719) 259-5944, and we’ll set up an appointment for you.